I’m celebrating the release of my writer friend C. Margery Kempe’s Man City: Martin this week, and it got me thinking about M/M love and M/M romance and eventually it turned my naughty thoughts to M/M porn. Super fit, hot-bodied guys doing the bump and grind with other hot-bodied guys. Any problem with that? As it turns out, for many women it’s no problem at all.
Now, obviously, that’s a strong generalization because there are woman a-plenty who poo-poo gay porn – and regular porn – the way Miley Cyrus spurs common sense. But in doing some research for this post, I was more than a little surprised to learn how many woman get off to guys getting off.
You’ll probably remember 2010’s The Kids Are Alright with Annette Bening and Julianne Moore as a lesbian couple raising two children. And you remember that scene, right? The one where Bening and Moore are getting cozy in the bedroom and decide to turn up the heat with a little porn. Gay porn. It was a funny scene but as I’ve heard also accurate. A significant portion of the lesbian population apparently likes watching M/M porn. Seems like a curious statistic. Wouldn’t lesbians prefer watching two hot gals getting busy over two hot guys? Wrong-o, daddy-o. They like the dudes.
A lesbian couple in my building confimed this unexpected bit of trivia. “Oh, lesbians love gay porn!” my neighbor chortled, a knowing smile lighting up her face. But wait, there’s more! Because as I was talking to women and reading up on this topic, I discovered that it’s not only the gay gals who like gay male porn – our straight sisters are liking it, too.
One obvious reason behind many women’s turn-off toward straight porn is that, frankly, we’re not the target audience. Straight porn is made for straight men. From the submissive nature of the female actors to the viewpoint of the sex scenes, it caters to the guys. There’s a reason the male actors are often shown from the chest down, ’cause the viewing male wants to imagine it’s him pounding away on the gal and not some other dude. Gay male porn shows the guys in all their hot, sweaty, ripped-body glory, including their gorgeous faces.
And about those hot bodies . . . yes, that’s another high reason behind why women like the male-male lovin’. Gay porn actors are romance cover models come to life. They’re fit, they’re muscular, they’re just plain hot. And if there are no other women around, there’s no competition. They’re all for us. How delicious.
When I asked a friend about why she enjoys M/M she cited a reason I’ve seen over and over: power dynamics. Straight porn brings to the screen what many women experience in real life. The guy has the power. He comes, he sees, he conquers. The women happily do whatever he wants. Here’s a conversation I can imagine in a straight porn movie:
“Suck me, baby.”
“Ooooh, how hard?”
“Until you choke on it.”
“Okey-dokey!”
And off to the races she goes, cheerfully gobbling his manly tool. But in M/M porn, as one lesbian said, it is, for once, the man who’s getting f**ked. The power dynamics normally seen in straight porn are tossed in the garbage like a used condom. As my friend added, “Watching man-on-man sex and seeing a man giving in to something that seems almost taboo is an intense, erotic experience.”
A further problem in straight porn is how fake it is. Nary a real breast in sight, positions that sometimes look more sadistic than sexy, and the gleeful exuberance that female porn actors show while getting their faces covered in sperm just doesn’t do it for the ladies. Even lesbians, who get no sexual jolt from guys, prefer gay porn to most F/F scenes which, clearly, are made by men for men.
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